Last week I celebrated a birthday, an event I usually spend the better part of the year anticipating, but this year I couldn’t help but feel a little disappointed when I woke up on my 26th birthday. I wasn’t quite where I thought I’d be at 26… but where is ‘there’? And will I ever be there? I have an amazing job that I genuinely love getting up and going to every day, a cosy and comfortable apartment with a fabulous roommate; I’m financially independent, have an extreme
obsession passion for group fitness that I worked hard to turn into a weekend job and the most ridiculously supportive #girlsquad a human could possibly ask for. But after a philosophical hour where I sat in solitude and contemplated the meaning of life, I realised that I’ll never get ‘there’, because when I do get ‘there’, I’ll want to be over there… and so on and so forth.
And you know what? I’m totally fine with it, because when I reflect back, this kind of attitude and mentality is actually what’s kept me going in life and I honestly think it’s the very thing that fuels my excitement for the future. Think about it like this, if you want to move forward, you can’t look backwards, it’s just not possible. In order to be better than you were yesterday, you need to do better than you did yesterday, and you need to approach life with that mentality every single day.
Just to clarify, that’s not to say I’m not living in the present and enjoying the here and now, because I totally am. It just means I’m constantly re-evaluating my goals and plans for the future. It’s fine to stop and take a moment to reflect on what you’ve achieved and celebrate how far you’ve come, just as long as you don’t sit there for too long and end up becoming complacent. Smashing a goal is an incredible feeling, and it’s one that’s worth fighting for.
Arriving at one goal is the starting point to another. I’ve embraced this mentality and it’s taken me to some pretty great places, and consequently, I’m going to keep on living that way. These don’t have to be the huge, earth shattering, life changing kinds of goals. They can be the smaller, more practical and realistic kind of goals. Whether it be career goals, relationship goals, health and fitness goals, personal goals, heck even new years goals, it’s advantageous to be continually setting yourself benchmarks to work towards so you can channel your energy in a positive direction.
Setting goals is better than making excuses, so what’s your next goal? Comment below x