I consider myself a very busy person, but wholeheartedly admit I need to rein it in sometimes. Between working full time, commuting most weeknights, cooking, cleaning, pinning researching, exercising and spending my weekends travelling an hour away to see my loved ones, I’m hardly ever home.
I don’t live in routine. I live a life of daily variety. My work changes every day, lunch can come in all shapes and sizes, I often miss the gym and I definitely don’t go to bed at the same time every night. Sameness and monotony has never really been my thing. I am however, very passionate about living in the now and not wishing on what I don’t have to blind myself from the good in the present moment. Otherwise, you can blink and it’s gone.
But busyness aside, one thing I’ve forgotten to do whilst embracing all the excitement of this rushing woman syndrome, is to actually spend a little time on myself. I am so fixated on what I do, where I am, what I’m doing and who I’m with, that I’m not actually thinking about myself as anything other than a vehicle to get wherever it is I may go next. Pack your bags, get in the car, it’s off to the next thing. I was addicted to that busy feeling, it felt productive and it made me seem happier than I actually was. But was I?
Something happened. I had that “uh-ha” moment. I became a version of myself that wasn’t pretty, or nice to be around. It was a full on filthy funk, and I was in deep. Awfully irritable, sensitive and irrational – just to name a few.
How did that happen? What am I doing? And most importantly, why am I so fixated on everything else that I’m too afraid to spend time with the most important thing of all? So I took a step back, sat down and gave myself a good stern talking to. When am I getting some serious me time? It was crazy that I couldn’t think of any. This needed to change. Quality me time was now an immediate priority. And you know what? It felt strangest to begin with (almost cheeky to be putting myself first) but since then its yielded enormous results. It’s like someone has sprinkled meaning direction all over me again. I’m not stuck in a funk, my mind is clear, I’m seeing everything in a fresh new light and I am blissfully content.
The difference between you time and alone time
I’m not talking about isolating yourself and being lonely, ‘you time’ can certainly be with others. With your girlfriends, with your gym buddies, with your family, even with your pets – as long as it’s giving you time to let your hair down, relax and clear your mind. Our heads can get so mentally overwhelmed at times that when we don’t take a moment to focus on the things we love, we can get congested with the noise of what’s happening around us. Clearing your mind is also a great chance to set our priorities straight. We shouldn’t be focused on what society wants us to do or what others want you to do, we should be focusing on what drives us – what lights that fire inside you. We’re not saying not to aim for the stars (beautiful things can happen there too) but sometimes priorities need to be a little more grounded, and this is where the real magic is born.
We all need a gentle reminder to re-focus and re-calibrate our thoughts (and our purpose) and life is what happens to you while you’re planning to do these things. So remember to not forget about you. Keep doing things that you feel are positive in your life so you can focus on your agenda, and be the girl who inspires everyone else around them.
And just so you don’t forget, download our Monday Motivation wallpaper and remember to make yourself a priority once in a while.
How are you going to spend time on yourself this week?