This time of year is a true blessing. Christmas seems to wave a magical wand over the world, making everything softer, more beautiful, and brighter. The festive season is celebrated all over the world, with one goal in mind. LOVE. If you wade through the pile of presents, the hustle and bustle and the hours spent in the kitchen, the true purpose behind it all is LOVE.
However, it’s so easy for us to get caught up in Christmas gift giving, as our wants and needs surrounding the holidays tend to shake our perspective. While we’re eyeing off the bottle of French perfume we’ve been lusting over or a bike with all the bells and whistles, we miss out on the true meaning of holiday festivities. Let’s be honest, receiving beautiful gifts is wonderful, but they only bring us momentary happiness. Things break, perfume runs out – that’s the way life works. What we should be striving for is giving the gift of our presence and creating magical moments with our loved ones. Things money simply cannot buy…
Do you ever find yourself at a family gathering, completely immersed in your Instagram feed and not in the conversation going on around you?
When a family member asks you a question, do you listen? Really listen? Or do you mumble a yes or no answer, hoping that it will be an adequate response?
When love is all around you and your nearest and dearest are by your side… take this time to give the gift of your presence.
Right now, your news feed is likely to be buzzing with festive posts about gifts, special events and surprise engagements. While it’s great to keep up to date with your social circle, your media habits stop you from giving your undivided attention. Try and log on once in the morning, and once in the afternoon, leaving your schedule cleared for family chats, belly laughs and enjoying every bit of your Christmas feast.
Living in the present moment is all about exercising your ability to listen and empathise with people. At each of your social soirees and family gatherings, there are times where you will need to wear the Dr. Phil hat and be that shoulder a friend needs to cry on. Practise your presence and give your loved ones all of your attention. Practice listening without judgment, without interrupting and try out your empathy. Maybe, just maybe you will play a vital part in this person’s life journey.
We all have childhood memories of waking up on Christmas morning, feeling all giddy, to find Santa indeed has visited the night before. Oh, to have that excitement again. To believe in something so wonderful and find joy in the smallest things. It’s these precious memories that make the holiday season oh-so special.
As we grow older, the novelty of Christmas tends to be left to the little ones to enjoy, but why not reignite your inner child and make some memories this Christmas? Organise board games or activities and invite your family to join in on the fun.
It may seem silly, but instead of sitting back, why not focus on some memory-making and just play. Arrange a game of backyard lawn bowls, play pass the parcel or organise a cricket match at the local park. Games are an exercise in togetherness and work wonders for bonding, especially if your family has spent a lot of time apart this year. Making memories doesn’t cost a thing; it’s a priceless gift, and just the thing you need to bond with your family and be 100% present in the moment together.
Gratitude reigns supreme
While the festive season is the perfect time to share your feelings, the best way to show your appreciation is through your actions. Don’t wait until you’re asked to clear the table, grab a tea towel and start a dish washing production line with your cousins! Bake a thank you cake for your grandparents this year, offer to babysit or donate a Christmas gift to a parent in need. With every act of kindness, you’ll feel more and more grateful for your own circumstances. It’s a win-win!
This Christmas, give the gift of your presence. There really is no better way to enrich your holiday experience than being 100% in the present moment, laughing with your loved ones, and creating some magical memories together. After all, it is our family and friends who bring so much richness and quality to our lives. Don’t focus on the material things that come with Christmas, instead spend time with the people you love and give them 100% of your best self.