Many women put so much of their energy into making relationships work that just aren’t nourishing them, or focus solely on finding a partner to make them happy. And too often, they completely neglect their own needs and give away their power and responsibility for happiness.
While for many the idea of self-love feels too shallow or disingenious, this is exactly the reason the art of self-love does need to be practiced. Those who cannot connect with self-love or feel as though they don’t deserve it are those that need it most. It’s the ego/brain connection that shies away from self-love and considers it nonsense. The heart connection welcomes self-love as if it were a long lost friend, and it very well may be.
There is a saying that goes ‘the person who cannot devote 15 minutes to meditation needs to meditate for an hour’, the same goes for self-love. If we can’t give ourselves the time to practice self-love for even five minutes a day, then we know we need to devote much more time to self-love until we connect with how important this practice is.
Self-love is not a ‘one time’ action tried on like a sweater in the sales rack at the local mall. It is a lifetime of conscious thought and an understanding that can be built only on practice.
Here’s 15 nourishing ideas about self-love that you may never have thought of before or need to know.
Choosing to trust your intuition. Your intuition always knows which direction to take. Self-love asks for you to follow the ‘guided path’ side of you, instead of following the ego/brain side.
Understanding that you may upset others who are used to you bounding to their beck and call. We hate to upset people and typically give more of ourselves than we should, it’s ‘you first’ for a change.
Showing yourself honesty in a way that you may not have in the past.
Beginning a conversation with yourself that you may have run from in the past. Where questions like ‘what am I really feeling?’ and ‘why?’ are going to be involved. Emotions can be tough. That’s why we push them down, but no more.
Making a conscious choice to rest, move our body, and nurture our soul to the best of our ability.
Creating a practice to believe in ourselves and our unlimited potential where we may have only seen failure in the past.
Making choices that build a life that we are passionate about even if we are single, where we explore and have fun without an expectation for somebody else to give us happiness.
Releasing those people in our lives who we expect to act in certain ways and are left feeling disappointed from.
Learning to compliment ourselves on the positives within us, physically and emotionally.
Holding our relationships with other people up to a certain integrity and not choosing second best in the way we treat other people in our lives.
Learning to forgive those in our lives we hold grudges against so that we release ourselves from suffering
Learning to set boundaries for ourselves and the other people in our lives so that we have space to nurture and nourish ourselves without exhausting our energy on other people.
Not beating ourselves up about what we view as failures or mistakes and start to recognise that we are simply learning lessons.
Moving forward instead of staying stuck in the quicksand of learned behaviour that is not benefitting us, such as negative self-talk, negative body image, relationships that don’t nourish us or a mindset that holds only fear.
Understanding that we are not going to be able to achieve perfection in our lives, and we may even not be able to achieve all of these things listed, but that we appreciate our effort, are grateful for our opportunities and applaud exactly who we are today regardless.
Once we realise that we are the only person who can truly make us feel loved then we are already on the right track to feeling like our luckiest, happiest and most fulfilled self. It is then that those around us will also get to shine in our light.