How many of you have ever said “I’ll be happy when…” ? When I have that outfit, when I get the body I want, when I have a family, when I get married, when I have more money. Sound familiar? I have a confession to make. I used to be a ‘I’ll be happy when’ offender. I say ‘used to’ because it was only recently that I came to the realisation that this way of thinking made me feel as though there was something wrong with me in the present moment. I realised I had so many goals and aspirations that I forgot to think about being present, and being ok with the now.
In so many ways, creating a vision, setting goals and being hopeful of your future is wonderfully satisfying and can lead to amazing things. It can help us be clear with what we want from our dreams, it can encourage us to work harder for what we want and it can attract beautiful, consuming and loving relationships. But what I discovered is that it stressed my present self by wanting to be somewhere else, all the time. The “I’ll be happy when” phrase turned into a thief of my joy, my happiness and gratitude.
I was totally unaware that this big dreaming and ‘what I didn’t have yet’ way of thinking was affecting my naturally grateful nature. Here, in my ‘uh-ha’ moment, I didn’t stop aspiring though, and I haven’t stopped setting goals for myself… in fact, far from it. Instead I’ve given myself a deep connection to the present moment, and to look at what I have to give in every situation, every single day. And you know what? I’ve never felt better! I realised that by being ok with where you are now (even if you want to change) increases your gratitude and turns what you have into enough.
4 ways to focus on the present:
- Love what you have right now. It will remind you that you are capable and you are enough, right in this very moment.
- Don’t stress if you don’t reach a goal. We don’t need to achieve everything in order to validate our impact in the present moment.
- Follow your passions. When we take the focus off the future, we open ourselves up to new experiences every day.
- Fall in love with the process of being present. If you allow your environment around you to process your goals rather than constantly focusing on them, the results will come.
You may not realise it just yet, but even if it doesn’t feel like you had imagined, you are exactly where you need to be.
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